By Amira Abdul
About Dr. Olayode Abdurasaq:
Dr. Olayode Abdurasaq, fondly known as the “Philosopher King,” is a renowned Marriage Counselor Trainer with over a decade of experience and is certified by the International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors. Dr. Olayode has helped countless couples strengthen their relationships through his workshops, training programs, and counseling services.
*Interview:
Interviewer: Amira Abdul
Amira Abdul: As-salamu alaykum, Dr. Olayode. Thank you for joining us today.
Dr. Olayode: Wa alaykum salam, Amira. It’s a pleasure.
Amira Abdul: Why do men often hesitate to visit marriage counselors during marital disputes?
Dr. Olayode: Men view counseling as a sign of weakness or failure due to societal norms emphasizing masculinity and self-reliance. However, Islam encourages seeking knowledge and guidance (Quran 58:11).
Amira Abdul: How does this reluctance affect the marriage?
Dr. Olayode: Unaddressed issues escalate conflicts, potentially leading to divorce. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us to seek reconciliation and mediation (Hadith: Abu Dawud).
Amira Abdul: What misconceptions do men have about marriage counseling?
Dr. Olayode: Men believe counseling will blame them, undermine their authority, or focus solely on emotional expression. In reality, counseling provides a safe space for resolution.
Amira Abdul: How can we encourage men to seek counseling?
Dr. Olayode: Normalize seeking help as a sign of strength, educate men on counseling benefits, involve male role models, and emphasize Islamic values.
Amira Abdul: What solutions do you propose for couples experiencing marital disputes?
Dr. Olayode: Practice active listening, address conflicts promptly, seek counseling early, cultivate gratitude, and prioritize shared values. Allah says, “And among His Signs is that He created for you mates…that you may dwell in tranquility” (Quran 30:21).
Amira Abdul: Thank you, Dr. Olayode.
Dr. Olayode: Thank you, Amira.
