For a while, your boy has been occupied to the extent that some people phoned to ask for him which necessitated some short publications to show everything is going well. Sunday May 14,2023 was not an exemption. In fact, as visitors were making reports, it took their matured understanding to allow your boy attended to many other complaints on phones for guidance on issues that would have constituted threats to societal peace. In fact, a chief of Egba could not be attended to same day because it was late before he could be less busy to attend to personal issues. I hope Baami (my father) would forgive his boy.
As the boy opened his phone at past 1 am of 15 May 2023, it was the post of his brother Sarafa Adewuni that caught his attention indicating the exit of Dr isiaka Jimoh. Your boy could not get the point well. So, the need for more information amidst other competing tasks became the priority. At past 4 am, O boy stumbled on the post of a brother; Yusuff Muslihudeen Oladunni. The brother posted the whatsapp chat where Dr Isiaq Jimoh confessed to him he was having depression. This was my area of concern. So, he committed suicide? This could not have happened without some people aware of the vulnerability and the precarious situation of our brother but most of us live non-chalant attitude. The irony of life is that what most victims of depression need is just piece of advice and regular contact for consolation.
I posted on facebook the precarious situations of some people who hinted me of their intention to kill themselves due to some challenges. Till date no single response. Alas if other approaches adopted had not yielded positive result, most of our people would have written messages on their facebook walls claiming to like them if they had committed suicide should there be no respite to their challenges. There are many people I know attend to others when the need arises but there are more selfish individuals unbothered with suffering of others.
I was once informed of a staff of a college of education in Ogun State who died because he could not get just N1000 to buy essential drug required to treat an ailment. It is unbelievable to assume there would not be any of the person’s neighbors who had N1000 or more to assist but decided to be unconcerned with the lives of others. That kind of life is common among the elites. Our parents are not so wicked like that. Unfortunately, there were reports of many people who thronged the deceased burial spending thousands of Naira to travel to the graveyard. Please, where is the humanity? Let us start inculcating the habit of realizing we can die any time and all our properties would belong to others anytime. Meanwhile, some people are still oblivious of the world. I was with a client of Akwa Ibom origin on Friday April 28, 2023 in Akowonjo, Lagos and we got to a point I said if I was alive, I shall attend to the task adequately. He asked why would I be thinking of death at my age and I told him and wife, death can come at any time as there is no one with timetable of death and so before you bid me farewell, let me deliver the message first
Before then, whatever we have and can use to assist people should be shared among them . That is the only thing we can do to get reward in the grave. Let us stop waiting for people to die before we start shedding tears or writing superlative accolade. I understand the pain and consequences of depression as I lost, in 2021, a very dear cousin that should have been 30 years on April 17, 2023. Unfortunately, I still perceive the situation like dream. May Allah forgive her and others who had gone before us.
As a teacher, Dr Jimoh Isiaka struggled to complete his mother’s house which is opposite General Hospital Igboho where he did play host to your boy and brother Raheem Yinusa. I knew Dr Isiaq Jimoh through my brother; Raheem Yunus who was his former teacher. He was so humble that he hardly ignore one when one was going in town. When your boy lost a dear cousin in September 2021, he was one of the early mourners without knowing he was taking similar path soon .He displayed his dexterity when your boy was engaged to audit an account he was personally involved in an organization. He coordinated everything well that ensured the task was completed within days Your boy and his right hand man; Mukadam Alao were on a bike when he was passing by early this year and was waving without knowing that was a strong message of exit..
In a nutshell, nature of my tasks and relationships with people have taught me that having assumption that all is well with everyone because of education is a serious misconception. In fact, my study although yet to be documented before now has shown that more than 96% of reviewed suicide cases (17) in the last ten (10) years in Nigeria are elites. In fact, a sister recently made a brief comment on a facebook and your boy got hint of a frustrated sister. She was debriefed and she gave hint of how she had attempted to kill herself in the past. There were many reports too numerous to mention. I thank God for a brother who was also saved by prompt intervention. Don’t say because you have no money, you can’t save lives. A minute or more call can assuage solitude person’s wrong perception of being neglected. At least, someone has confessed in the past that a call the person regularly received kept her on her feet especially when she was planning wrong step.
No matter the problem you think you encounter, it is just temporary as no condition is permanent. Therefore, suicide is not the next best option to think of. Look for someone who can keep secret and discuss with such a person, you are just near the door to emancipation if taken such a step. Even if somebody disappointed you, there are many people who are ready to promote and support you. If you think you have failed on a project, it is not the end but opportunity to perform better if taken improved steps on earlier actions taken. So, why are you thinking negatively when you have opportunities to utilize and perform better than your peers? Stop that negative thought, suicide is a criminal offence not taken lightly by our Creator. Therefore, think positive and stop allowing depression to have chance in your life. We cannot ignore depression to celebrate anyone’s abrupt exit just like that. Your boy pleads that you should join hands to stop depression. The time was now to act fast!!! May Allah forgive Dr Jimoh, Olaoluwa Isiaka and be with the families he left
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