Many women look 2 times older than their age because of stress and exhaustion!
We marry them and then turn them into maids.
You seat down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she’s about to pass out? You don’t even have courtesy of appreciating her by saying well done 3 times daily but complain about delays in your food getting ready and other complaints .
Seriously, are you kidding me. Don’t you see you are wicked? As a man, who told you that it is wrong to wash dishes? Who told you that it is wrong to dress a bed? And there’s this twisted view of marriage that has led to an increase in domestic violence where they’ll see a man cooking and they be like “Man, you need to get married so you can stop cooking”.
Let me tell you, don’t marry a woman to clean or cook for you but marry to assist, love, cherish and enjoy each other.
If you are getting married because you feel you need someone to cook and do all house work for you, then get a housemaid.
“A real man helps around the house. Washes and cleans. Helps his mother, wife or sister during household chores. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was an exemplary example of this. He constantly did house work so be inspired by our Beloved Prophet and help out the women in your house.”
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” [Hadith Al-Tirmidhi]
COVID-19 Lockdown presented an opportunity for men to be re-train again in helping out in the household work but over to our women to take their husband through the re-training gently and amicably.
May Allah (SWT) enable our men to calm down and blend with the reality of marriage in Islam.
O Allah bless all our marriages and grant couples Muadah Wa Rahma.
Salahudeen Ustaz Yunus